One thing we talk about a LOT at the Meridee Winters School of Music, especially at the start of the school year, is the power of building good habits. Here’s an interesting fact: while people often think success comes from being super motivated or naturally talented, researchers have discovered otherwise – that habits are way more powerful than motivation. While constantly motivating your child sounds exhausting (because it is), daily habits are actually a much easier path to success, whether that’s in music lessons, in school or in their extracurriculars.
Why Habits Work So Well
Author Charles Duhigg explains it perfectly: “Habits emerge because the brain is constantly looking for ways to save effort.” Our brains love turning routines into habits because it means we can go on autopilot. A Duke University study found that over 40% of what we do each day isn’t really a decision—it’s just habit. Think about it: your kid doesn’t need motivation to brush their teeth or grab their backpack. These things just happen automatically. So why not use this same brain power for homework and piano practice?
The Simple Habit Formula
Research has shown that habits include three basic components:
- A cue: perhaps leaving your sneakers by the front door to remind you to hit the gym that morning
- The routine itself: exercising
- And a reward: maybe an episode of your favorite show
For music students, this same approach can be applied to practicing: the cue could be as simple as finishing up dinner, the routine would be playing through the assignments spelled out by your teacher, and thereward could be wrapping up the session with your favorite MW music game, or putting a sticker on your homework journal. This cue/routine/reward system is actually a neurological process that leads to the formation of habits, but when you include music, stickers and games, it actually sounds… fun.
Start Simple This School Year
Pick one habit and stick with it for three weeks, setting up the cue/routine/reward system. Maybe it’s 15 minutes of music practice after school, or homework at the kitchen table right after dinner. Small, consistent actions create big results over time. Your child’s success isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being consistent, and the habits they build this year will help them long after they graduate.
Want to give your child a head start on building great habits? Our music lessons teach consistency, focus, and discipline in a fun way that carries over to schoolwork. Contact us to learn more!
